Things Girls Need To Understand

I don't know about you, but I'm tired of people complaining that they got hurt when they didn't follow the most simple rules of dating. Now, I have to be the mean one and tell some of you girls how silly you're being. Not all of these necessarily pertain only to females, but.. we are the ones who try to be the "exception to the rule" (quote taken from He's Just Not That Into You). So ladies (and gentlemen) please pay attention to the following. It'll save you some heartache, and your friends some time.

If he loves someone else, let him go.
Love is a funny thing. Yeah, you can love more than one person at a time, but this is usually not the case. If a guy blatantly tells you he is in love with another girl (or boy), do yourself a favor and let him go. You deserve someone who loves you just as much as you love them.

If he cheats, let him go.
But he found out he loves me more by being with another girl! No. Just no. If a guy cheats on you, he obviously does not care about you enough to be faithful. You don't deserve that shit. If you think you do, you have more problems than you know about. If a guy cheats once, whats to say he wont do it again?

If he gets really drunk and breaks up with you, let him go.
Ever heard that drunken words are sober thoughts? Yeah. This can be the case more often than not. Trust your gut. If he makes you question your relationship every time he gets plastered, there's a problem.

If he says he wants to be "just friends" in the beginning, don't expect this to change.
This is self-explanatory. If you start developing feelings towards him that he doesn't reciprocate, its best you just move on. Sometimes its best this way. You can never have enough friends.

Stop trying to "Fix Him", he won't change.
Drug problems, beating up on girls, lack of employment, etc. Stop right there meester. Females have this fascination with fixing men. Heads up ladies, we cannot fix them. Especially if they do not want to be fixed. Stop wasting your time on someone who isn't ready for what you can give them.

If he's a dirty fucking liar, let him go.
Lie to me once, shame on you. Lie to me twice, shame on me. Lying is probably the biggest turnoff for me, personally. If you don't have the balls to tell the truth, you don't have the balls to be faithful, or loving, or caring, or any of the other things us girls want in our men. Ditch the liar. Find someone who respects you enough to tell you the truth.

Understand that not every guy who has sex with you loves you. 
Girls. The guy you go home with from the kegger at the Goat House is probably not the guy you think he is. After 12 beers, can you really believe anything anyone tells you? Can you honestly say the guy who took you home will call tomorrow? You can't be sure about these things. So quit fooling yourself. Hooking up is a normal part of college life for some, just don't plan on finding Prince Charming at the bottom of a bottle.

Understand that not every guy who says he loves you, really does.
Some guys will say anything to get what they want. This is not the case for all guys! I'm not trying to make any assumptions about men's intentions, but girls need to understand that sometimes that four letter word can be a big fat lie. The guy you met last Saturday who is expressing his "love" for you through text message probably doesn't understand what love is. Find someone who knows what love is. Find someone who is ready for that kind of commitment (if that's what you're looking for).

Simply put, follow the rules. Don't try to be the exception.
But when you do find someone who fits where you need them, and wants what you want, hold on tight and never let go. Have fun while you can and remember that tomorrow is always another day.

Not every knight in shining armor is a geek in tin foil,
<3 Lilly